Iniyavai Kooral

Speaking Sweet Words

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Iniyavai Kooral (Speaking Sweet Words)

Kural 91

இன்சொலால் ஈரம் அளைஇப் படிறிலவாம் செம்பொருள் கண்டார்வாய்ச் சொல்.

Kural 91 from Iniyavai Kooral teaches that speaking sweet, gentle words is a simple gift that brings joy to others and costs us nothing.

When you want to encourage a friend who is going through a hard timeWhen you are about to give feedback to a colleague or studentWhen a family member does something small and you want to acknowledge it

Read →Kural 92

அகன்அமர்ந்து ஈதலின் நன்றே முகனமர்ந்து இன்சொலன் ஆகப் பெறின்

Kural 92 from Iniyavai Kooral (Speaking Sweet Words) teaches that giving with a welcoming face and kind words is worth more than giving generously alone.

When you help a colleague but do it with a sigh or a cold look — they feel like a burden even though you helpedWhen you give a gift to someone but say 'fine, take it' in a flat, reluctant tone — the gift loses its warmthWhen a manager approves a team member's request but makes them feel guilty for asking

Read →Kural 93

முகத்தான் அமர்ந்துஇனிது நோக்கி அகத்தானாம் இன்சொ லினதே அறம்

Kural 93 from Iniyavai Kooral (Speaking Sweet Words) teaches that true virtue is shown through a pleasant, settled face and genuinely warm words spoken from the heart.

When you greet a colleague at work and want to make them feel genuinely welcome, not just toleratedWhen a family member comes home tired and needs to feel that they are safe and loved — not judgedWhen you are speaking to someone you disagree with and want to stay kind without being fake

Read →Kural 94

துன்புறூஉம் துவ்வாமை இல்லாகும் யார்மாட்டும் இன்புறூஉம் இன்சொ லவர்க்கு

Kural 94 from Iniyavai Kooral (Speaking Sweet Words) teaches that those who speak sweetly and bring joy to all they meet will be protected from poverty and hardship.

When you are going through financial difficulty and feel that no one is willing to help youWhen you are new to a job or city and need to build support from the people around youWhen you want to create lasting goodwill in your community or workplace

Read →Kural 95

பணிவுடையன் இன்சொலன் ஆதல் ஒருவற்கு அணியல்ல மற்றுப் பிற

Kural 95 from Iniyavai Kooral teaches that being humble and speaking sweetly are a person's real ornaments — everything else is decoration, not character.

When you meet someone successful who speaks down to others and wonder why it feels wrongWhen you are preparing for an important meeting and wondering what will make the best impressionWhen you want to teach a child or younger person what truly matters in how they carry themselves

Read →Kural 96

அல்லவை தேய அறம்பெருகும் நல்லவை நாடி இனிய சொலின

Kural 96 from Iniyavai Kooral (Speaking Sweet Words) teaches that when we seek goodness and speak sweet words, evil fades and virtue grows.

When you are about to give feedback to a colleague and want to say it in a way that helps rather than hurtsWhen there is tension in a family conversation and choosing softer words could calm the roomWhen you are tempted to complain or criticise, but choosing to speak encouragingly would lift everyone

Read →Kural 97

நயன்ஈன்று நன்றி பயக்கும் பயன்ஈன்று பண்பின் தலைப்பிரியாச் சொல்

Kural 97 from Iniyavai Kooral (Speaking Sweet Words) teaches that words rooted in kindness earn gratitude and never drift from good character — the mark of truly worthwhile speech.

Giving feedback to a colleague — choosing words that are honest but still kind and helpfulComforting a friend who is going through a hard time and needs gentle, purposeful wordsGuiding a child or younger sibling — correcting them without harsh criticism

Read →Kural 98

சிறுமையுள் நீங்கிய இன்சொல் மறுமையும் இம்மையும் இன்பம் தரும்

Kural 98 from Iniyavai Kooral teaches that a word free from unkindness brings happiness in this life and the next. A timeless lesson in speaking with grace.

When you are angry but choose to reply gently instead of with a sharp wordWhen you give feedback to a colleague or student without putting them downWhen you comfort someone who is struggling, using kind and patient words

Read →Kural 99

இன்சொல் இனிதீன்றல் காண்பான் எவன்கொலோ வன்சொல் வழங்கு வது

Kural 99 from Iniyavai Kooral (Speaking Sweet Words) asks: if kind words bring the best results, why would anyone ever choose harsh ones? A timeless question.

When you feel tempted to snap at a colleague who made a mistakeWhen a parent wants to correct a child without making them feel smallWhen you are frustrated and about to send an angry message or email

Read →Kural 100

இனிய உளவாக இன்னாத கூறல் கனிஇருப்பக் காய்கவர்ந் தற்று.

Kural 100 — Iniyavai Kooral. Speaking harsh words when kind ones are available is like eating unripe fruit while ripe fruit hangs within reach. Thiruvalluvar on choosing your words — explained in plain English.

Saying something harsh and regretting itDifficult conversations at work or homeWanting to speak more kindly

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